Hey there. You probably received the link to this page from someone who loves you.
I'm Patty Burgin, the founder and CEO of the SeattleCoach Network. We are a tribe of experienced professionals who have become executive coaches. And we have a soft spot in our hearts for young leaders like you who are catching the Adulting Train.
So I've asked our wise, accomplished, fun-loving tribe members what advice they might have for this year's graduates. Turns out they had some charming answers.
We invite you to look through the following list and to reflect on the entry that stops you. Your gut probably knows. You're welcome.
Make a habit of asking yourself, "Other than money, how do you like to be compensated?"
In your first few gigs, put yourself around people you will learn from. These relationships will help you to prepare for and choose your next gig.
Try not to just work remotely. Many of your future mentors and friends are on-site and in-person.
Graduation is only the beginning of learning. Learning "muscles" need exercise. Choose to learn something new every day. Then you will be as sharp, curious, and growing for the coming decades as you are today.
Find a sport you like and get good at it. You’ll meet great people.
Be unhurried with the important stuff. Don’t cut corners.
Remember that what you put on the internet machine will last forever. But you knew that.
Handle your reputation with TLC.
Let someone else get credit.
Send thank you notes.
Keep some stuff to yourself.
Go out of your way.
Your life is going to fly by. Just saying.
More than what you say, people remember how you make them feel. Focus on giving them the good.
When you feel strongly about something, learn to listen, be influenced, and persuade.
Ask yourself this question from time to time: Other than money, how do you like to be compensated?
Don’t assign ill intention to the acts of others. Learn to listen and persuade (worth repeating).
Don’t be too critical of what someone does – try to catch them doing the right thing and praise them.
Be curious – it is the best chance to understand someone or something.
Let go of the need to judge others and yourself.
Practice gratitude, all day, all the time, towards everyone.
Get involved. Fight for what you are passionate about. Who knows, you just might change the world.
Dare to be bold and brave, you never know who you'll inspire.
Assume others have good intentions. It makes navigating life more enjoyable.
Surround yourself with great people who are great coaches. You will make each other better without trying.
Don't believe everything you hear . . . or read. Use that fine brain of yours to come to your own conclusions based on your principles and values. Always be learning and experiencing life in-person, not just through the screen of your electronic device. Trust yourself and know that in order to do that you'll need to distinguish between your inner wisdom and the wheedling voice of FOMO. Avoid "should" as much as possible. Either something's right for you, or it's not. Yes, I know, sometimes your parents aren't going to like that (they're growing too). Don't be unduly swayed by doomsday talk about how the world is going to hell in a handbasket. It's just us old people feeling sad because the world we knew is changing and that's hard to accept without a big dose of nostalgia. Be excited because what's coming is the world you get to shape and create. But be warned, it may not as easy as you think.
Periodically remind yourself that all of us are smarter than any of us.
Be inclined to trust your gut. Your head will often try to talk it out of what it knows. But it often knows best.
Find your highest and truest voice and don't be afraid to use it.
(And last but not least). About your life partner: Don’t separate your heart from your values and vision for your life. That combination of dizzying attraction + shared values? Your match is out there.
SeattleCoaches who contributed their wisdom to the list (along with their links) . . .